I made the mistake of being convinced by my boyfriend to go see what was the f*cking deal with the strip clubs. It was quite interesting at the beginning and at that moment the situation has manageable. We were hanging out with a bunch of friends and they all wanted a "private show" for the whole group. So once again I made the mistake of getting "convinced". I asked my bf what kind of "private show" it was... "just girls dancing around you"... that seems pretty manageable. We went in the room and the girls start dancing for us and then all of sudden I turn my look and I saw my boyfriend he has his hands on one of the stripper's butt sort of like ridden her and I lost it... that was it for me, I got out of the room asked for two shots of whiskey and a pack of cigarettes and started smoking like a hooker in a gay party. What is it necessary for him to that right in front of me? Whta is it necessary for me to see his "enjoy" face?
I'll accepted Im very innocent and its probably my fault because I did said yes. But right now I feel so hurt knowing the reality, I guess I prefer to be blind and not see the truth. How can I not feel insecure being with him knowing that all they do when its "guys night out". I'm not gonna be the girl that forbids things for him to do, but I feel sooo frustrated. How do I avoid not to feel in disadvantage with beatiful girls? Or should I put a limit on this? Should I let him go? I feel so stupid crying over this... help!
Should I allow my boyfriend to go to strip clubs?
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I'm a stripper and our club doesn't allow any form of touching. We aren't even allowed to touch the man on the shoulder. We also have to be 6 inches away from them at all times. Maybe you should allow him to go to a club that has strict rules.
Wed, 08/20/2008 - 8:16pm
First and foremost, I am wondering what kind of strip club is this, since there is a no touch policy in most of the reputable ones ... even the strippers want respect when they do private dances. As for him touching her in front of you that was disrespectful, in my opinion. I enjoy strip clubs and have frequented them with my friends and some significant others but never ever have any of my previous boyfriends ever touched one of the strippers and done a "pleasure face" it has been just for fun, so I do not know how I would have reacted but probably not good --especially if the stripper allowed it. As for forbidding him from going, how long has he been going? Is it every time he has a guys night out? I am a firm believer that you cannot forbid anyone from doing anything in a relationship if they want to do it, so you got to find out where he stands on this if you are truly unconfortable and want him to promise he won't go. One of my friends a long time ago had a boyfriend that had a bit of an obsession with going and would go every Friday with his friends, she hated it but would not tell him and they finished breaking up because she was feeling insecure about herself in comparision to these women (and started having trust issues with him which I firmly believe is a symptom of insecurity)-- she never told him because she believed boys will be boys, so what I learned from that is that if you personally don't like it and it creates respect or other issues for you, you must tell him, if he tells you he will still go -- then you got to make a decision whether you can or cannot live with it.
PS-- do not blame yourself for being curious and going, the fact that you gave it a chance and he went out of bounds in front of you (the touching) was wrong and you should tell him that regardless of what you do.
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